The Life of Bobbie Neal Overman Part 3
In 1968 Bob’s father John Carven passed away. He was
eighty-eight years old.
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| John Carven Overman |
If there is one thing that defined Bob Overman, it was his
devotion to Janet and to his daughters. When Janet decided she wanted to move
back to the San Joaquin valley to live closer to her parents, the decision was
difficult for Bob. He was experiencing real success with his new business. They
owned a home in the then sleepy town of Dana Point and prospects were looking
up for the future. What no one realized at this point was that Janet was in the
early stages of mental illness caused by a subtle hormonal imbalance in her body. Her
thinking was becoming irrational and Bob didn’t understand why she was behaving so differently. Her
parents were also bewildered by her behavior and couldn’t understand her sudden
insistence on moving away from Dana Point. While Bob had never been their first choice for a
son-in-law, Cecil and Winnifred understood the hard work he had put into his
business and appreciated his dedication to his family. In the end Janet gave
him an ultimatum: to either move with her or she and the children would move
alone. He decided to move with his family.
In moving a part of Bob died. His hope for success was gone;
the San Joaquin Valley was not an optimal place for his sort of business.
Mostly an agricultural area, there weren’t many housing developments in need of
his work and the demographics were vastly different from Southern California. He
knew it would also be difficult to be near his in-laws; Cecil was an easy going
man who could get along with nearly anyone, but Winnifred was not and she
tended to find fault in nearly everything Bob did. Nonetheless, he tried to be
positive about this new stage in his life.
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| Christmas 1970. Left to right: Bob, Cynthia, Jennifer and Janet |
As hard as he tried, Bob could not get his business to grow
the way it had in Southern California. Work was piecemeal, no one wanted to pay
for the work rendered, and he was often short on money, unable to make the rent or pay for gas for his welder. Cecil supplemented Bob's income when he was made aware of
the situation. Meanwhile Janet’s mental illness deepened.
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| Cynthia, Bob, and Jennifer 1982 |



How sad...but well written and interesting. Good job.
ReplyDeleteIts the most difficult part of the story to tell. Wish he could have had a happier life, but I have to say he always tried to look at the positive side of every situation.
ReplyDeleteWhat an inspiring man, he kept trying even with all the setbacks.
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